The wall sconces within my main bathroom were about the fritz for quite a long time. The lights continued to flicker and go out. High priced electricians were baffled. I ultimately determined the fixtures themselves needed to be replaced. I eventually got those new fixtures installed after they collected dust for about 18 months.
I have been standing having dimmed lighting in my own bathroom for about 385 weeks. When putting on my makeup in the morning, not being able to determine clearly. Feeling my energy fall after I saw the 4 brilliant wires sticking from my mirror and entered the room. Describing to my children that I… Merely hadn’t got around to getting someone in to install the new fixtures. The irony of planning to be a light and inspiration on earth, but I was dragging my heels on bringing full light into my own personal space. Fascinating all the lessons that may be shown from these vignettes of everyday life!
Here are a few lessons I learned from the “Bathroom Fixture Fiasco” that I’d like to tell you so you can identify and kick any tolerations you’re living with!
Lesson #1 – Watch Out for the Pebbles
Putting up with situations, relationships and dilemmas that don’t serve you tends to fall into two classes: boulders and pebbles. The boulders would be the ones which are so clear that you know that that you have to address them somehow. Examples might be a soul or abusive relationships -sucking career. Boulders demand your energy big-time!
Pebbles are the smaller, seemingly innocuous issues which don’t look like much. They aren’t as clear that they require your focus. Working with individuals who do not always do what they say, dealing with the stack of papers on your desk, or fixing a light fixture in your bathroom. Don’t fool yourself! Your energy and focus is softly, and consistently, draining away and the fee can be enormous. Plus, you spend some time creating justifications or motives regarding the reason why it’s OK to put up with them. “I will get to that filing tomorrow, it is not a big deal!” or “I Will simply avoid them so I actually don’t have to tell them I’m not satisfied with their work.” Pebble -sized tolerations can add up to important time plus energy flows.
Consider the mountain climber. Than it’s to safely traverse slopes of scree and pebbles it’s often easier to climb up or down the enormous boulders.
Lesson #2 – Tolerations Reveal Subconscious Truths
My light fixture escapade shown there was a deeply unconscious section of me that was just fine with me NOT being in my light. “Hey”, it believed, “You’re safer when you a bit more difficult to see because then you are less visible a target for criticism.” There was a part that actually liked a little inconvenience or bearing because I could keep myself in a “poor me” mentality.
Think of something you understand you’re standing and discounting. What are the ideas you use to keep it in place? Where those same ideas show up everywhere else that you experienced can you see?
Lesson #3 – Figure Out Your ROI
When you discover a toleration and require motivation to kick yourself into activity, merely consider your return on investment. How long have you been trying never to find that the taxes are not filed, or that your cellar storage room is full of litter that you scare?
I ran an instant calculation of the cost of my light fixture fiasco. The cost of solving the trouble? Just 5 minutes to make a call, $50 and 20 minutes when needed to supervise.
Putting up with tolerations is never a great investment, especially if you look at it. Energy your time and talents are way too special to waste. So let these lessons from my bathroom light fixtures function as a cautionary tale for you personally!